How To Give Great Head

In my opinion the fellatio (a blow job) is one of the most underutilized sex acts there is, not enough women give them often enough and some won't at all.  If you want your partner to treat you like a princess you need to treat him like a porn star. In this entry I'm going to go over the basics of giving great head, I'm sure in the near future I will put up some more varied techniques but for now we'll focus on some easy not so confronting stuff. As an attempt to not offend anyone I'm going to try and use correct terms, though in reality the thought of calling it a 'penis' sends me into fits of childish laughter, we use the 'c word' in our house as I think it's far sexier.

First things first, a blow job doesn't have to be staged, he doesn't have to be hard to begin performing oral sex and he most certainly doesn't have to ask for it to be in the mood for one. Don't act like this is a chore, let him know (or make him think) you are really into it.  I have to admit, sometimes I am really not in the mood for sex and definitely not in the mood to give him head but for me it's a quick fix, I put a smile on my face and make him think I'm really into it.  It doesn't take that long, it doesn't have to be messy and it leaves you in the good books for a long time.

A common fantasy for men is to to wake up to his partner giving him a blow job, my husband tells me that it turns him on knowing that I initiated it, he didn't have to ask and it came when he wasn't expecting it.  In our hectic lives we often put of having sex until our partners are bugging us for it, so wouldn't it be a nice change to suprise him with a sexual treat without him having to ask?   Start by taking your partners flaccid penis in your mouth, usually you can get the whole thing in when it's soft and it's a great deep throating illusion. Use your tongue to slowly massage the shaft, gently suck and you will feel him begin to get hard, usually he will start to wake by this time.  Begin your eye contact, confidence and eye contact are the key to a great blow job, look him straight in the eye and continue to use your tongue to massage him to a full erection.  

Wrap your mouth tightly around his penis and being very careful to not use teeth at any point, slowly bring your mouth up, try and use some variety by twisting your head a little as you do, twirl your tongue or 'pulse' your mouth then stop and give him a simple sexy sentence.  Now isn't the time for a full blown dirty talking session, tell him he tastes good, or you love sucking him off and then go straight back to it.  Remember that confidence is the key to any great sexual act, the more into it you seem, the more into it you will BOTH get.

Alternate between moves, Try and remember to work your tongue around in little circles, move up and down or press against the penis at the same time as you work your mouth up and down the shaft.  Change the pressure you apply, use soft lips and hard tongue, then hard tongue, pulsing mouth etc.  Remember to use your hands to fondle his balls or squeeze his thighs, do bursts of stroking his shaft while you pay attention to the head of the penis. Pay keen attention to your lover, if you can feel him twitching, see he's really enjoying it and isn't trying to push for more keep doing what you are doing.  As soon as his movements dull, or it doesn't seem as exciting, swap to a different type of movement.  You don't have to keep going up and down on it, men are visual creatures, take it out your mouth and lick it all over, including his balls and pay special attention to the head of the penis, the most sensitive part.  

If your partner gets really into it he is likely to thrust into your mouth as you're doing it, if he goes too far in and hits your gag reflex just swallow, it stops the gagging, not that he cares, it's just an extra fantastic sensation to him and he enjoys knowing his penis is big enough to make you gag.  If it makes you uncomfortable tell him afterwards, don't pull away and tell him off, now is not the time. Let him have his moment and then have a calm discussion with him later on in the night and explain why you don't like it. If you continually gag, don't put as much in your mouth, wrap one of your hands around the base of his shaft and give it some loving, he will love the sensations and it will stop him from being able to get in deep enough to make you gag.

I've never met a man that cums without warning you, if he doesn't you can usually tell he is about to when he starts pulsing hard. and thrusting into you.  When he warns you he is about to cum, don't change what you are doing, slightly increase the pressure and allow him to thrust into your mouth or grab your hair.  A hand job is great but a blowjob is better, don't go back a step, if you don't like swallowing for whatever reason, don't finish him off with a hand job, it's just cruel.  Tell him in a sexy voice that you want him to blow on your face/chest.  If you are willing to swallow, as he blows wrap your mouth tightly around his penis and use your tongue to 'milk' every last drop out of him.  If you place your tongue flat against his shaft and take him as deep in your mouth as you can you can avoid the semen hitting most your taste buds if you don't like the taste.  Never ever pull faces or say yuck, wait until he's ready to pull out then excuse yourself to get a drink if you need to.

Some Hints and Tips:

• Moaning as you do it will send vibrations along his penis and let him know you're into it
• Keep it wet, use edible lube or lots of saliva, friction burn is never good
• Grab it and suck it hard, it won't break
• Remember to breathe through your nose
• Never spit it out or kiss him afterwards (unless he asks!)
• Try putting some fizzy drink, ice or mints in your mouth for an extra buzz
• Everybody is different, what works for some won't on others, remember this is a guide only
• Experiment with new things and pay attention to his body language to see if hes enjoying it
• Ask him what he likes, don't be shy!

As usual if you have any questions or input just leave a comment.